When A Guy Does It He’s Really Good But When She Does It She’s A Slut

double standard

When you are young especially in your early twenties we make a lot of avoidable mistakes, avoidable because older people warn us almost every time, but we don’t listen because we believe we can outsmart a futile situation someone else has been through.

One of the most memorable one is falling for either our boss or that very suave senior colleague that always seems to have a way with the ladies, or always tries to have his way with the ladies. We don’t know this at first because we think we are special and that he really and truly likes us.

I took a day off work for some very personal reasons. I work in a very vibrant and energetic environment that deals with and sells entertainment. You can but imagine how lively everyone is at this office. Apparently when I was away from work a very friendly colleague of mine had his birthday, there was cake and booze and all the madness possible, as is the custom with any office with predominately younger people. He was receiving gifts when a specifically packaged gift came in. He was feverish about it, so we guessed it had to be from someone special. When he was done tearing the packaging open, there was a MacBook inside; suddenly, right there, one of the interns he was just shagging for fun burst into tears!

She was devastated, she thought she was special.

I don’t blame her, I really don’t. These guys are full of shit half the time and we clearly know this, but we pretend they aren’t because we hope we will be the one to bring the player down, make him fall in love with us. We forget that almost all the girls he has shagged had the same idea that this “special” intern had.

She is a jolly, hot and very energetic person, but she’s very fragile. She’s having her internship in one of the most popular brand names in the country. She has a supervisor that is serious but super talkative, and she really loved his kind of work; of course she did, almost everyone did.

Internship…It’s such a valuable experience to have; as an intern at a local TV station. My days consisted of  transcribing interviews and going to cover views of people for interesting topics in different sorts of vox-pop. It was tedious work, but I loved every minute of it!

Usually, I will not say anything to girls who have crushes on their colleagues. But in this scenario, I was disappointed in her. I can’t wrap my fingers around what makes something you can’t  have more desirable. I can’t stress the importance of internships and experience as the professional that you see in your future, especially given our current employment market. But while your sweet talking colleague/supervisor is likely charming and successful, I would advise you to stay away from him.

You’re in this position to build the foundation for your career. Make the most of your internship by learning as much as you can about the company and field, whilst also building solid contacts. Generally speaking, it’s not the best idea to start up something romantic with your supervisor, whether you’re an intern or a regular employee; HR departments usually frown on these relationships.

Have you had any experience interning? Did you love it? Hate it? And have you ever had a crush on a supervisor?

Questions I Ask My Self

Is it possible that they’ll have something that could go beyond the office?

Why do we let them treat us like that and do we give them the chance?

Why do these guys feel they have to lie to you that they have real romantic feeling towards you? Why is it that when a girl asks you to wait for her to be ready she is called a prude?

Why can’t the girl be the one who likes sex?

Why does the girl who likes sex get to be called names like slut, runs girl and names along that line?

When a girl decides that she doesn’t want to be treated like that and decides to turn the tables i.e. shag the guy without feelings, a friend of mine refers to this kind of girls as the “Female version of a guy”

Remember the girl that went out with her friends and this very well spoken, well dressed, good looking guy walked up to her and knew exactly what to  say and when to listen enough to make her feel like it was a love connection when he was indeed married and didn’t say anything about it neither did he wear a ring nor did he show signs he had a lovely young wife waiting for him at home?

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